Wants vs. Needs
Wants and needs. It’s a difference that we can’t always
discern. We are compelled to trust that God knows what we need, even if it
doesn’t line up with what we want.
If
I could assess my desire to get married, I’d put it in the “want” category. I’m
not sure I’d qualify it as a need. I only hope God will put it in the need
category and fulfill it even though it’s something I think I could survive
without.
In
Hannah Whitall Smith’s book The God of
All Comfort she says, “Often, in order to give us the thing we need, God is
obliged to keep us from the thing we want.”
Here’s
the trouble I have with such a statement. Not in any way subtracting from the
truth of the statement, I just want to reveal where my mind goes when I think
about such things:
God
will only give me the things I need, not the things I want. Therefore, unless
something is an absolute need in my physical or spiritual life, God will not
supply it. I will be starved of earthly pleasures and given a feast of
situations and circumstances that will serve my holiness but never feed my
happiness.
Wow.
Let’s break out the pom-poms and have a cheer for Christianity.
Several
years ago, God decided I needed to learn what trusting Him really meant. I was
infiltrated with this idea that God wanted to bring Himself glory with no
thought or care for me. Through an intensely emotional season as well as the
book Trusting God by Jerry Bridges,
He taught me that my good and His glory go hand in hand. One will not happen
without the other. What is good for me will bring Him glory. What brings Him
glory will always be good for me.
If
that’s too complicated, we need no other proof for trusting God than Jesus’
death on the cross.
But
that doesn’t answer the question posed by the desire of our hearts. I’m a
person with serious tunnel vision if I can’t see that earthly pleasures
surround me, little and big things that I could most certainly survive without.
The fact that I’m writing this on a MacBook, the coffee I’m drinking right now,
the fact that it’s 85 degrees outside (feels like 70 degrees compared to 109
degrees). Do I need these things?
If
this isn’t proof enough for me, God tells us Himself, “If you, being evil, know
how to give good gifts to your children, how much more so you Father in
Heaven?”
It’s
hard for me to imagine any good parent, in the moths proceeding Christmas,
walking down the isle of stores looking for gifts for their children, picking
up the t-ball set or the Barbie doll and as they hold it in their hands saying,
“Now will this serve to aid my child in their physical or spiritual growth?”
I
would like to suggest that God likes to see us smile, probably even more than
we like to do it. I would like to suggest, that good gifts that we don’t
necessarily need will often serve our spiritual growth as we receive those
gifts with joy from the hand of a Father who enjoys seeing His children joyful.
A
few years ago, my younger sister got it into her head that she wanted a baby
turtle for a pet. A couple days after she expressed her desire for a baby
turtle, she walked outside and found a baby turtle crawling in the front yard.
She
might have forgotten she wanted a baby turtle even a few months later. It might
not have bothered her very much if she didn’t ever get one. She would have been
content without that turtle. But God decided He wanted to give her a gift, just
to remind her of His love, and to remind all of us who witnessed the event, how
deeply He cares for us.