Refresh of Christmas: Down with Tradition
The past few years, I’ve hated Christmas. My family has
called me the Grinch or Scrooge and someone gave me a Ba Humbug coffee mug last
year. I would pretended like Christmas wasn’t happening and that it was
just another day, another year.
I hate buying gifts—I always wait until the last minute and
then it’s even more stressful.
I hate doing the same thing every year. And Christmas is the
most traditional holiday of the world. It’s why new Christmas songs don’t make
it big. People just want the same old songs, the same old sayings, the same old
food. Hashtag: bored.
Why so glum on the most shimmering and exciting holiday of
the year? There are a few reasons and they are as follows:
Reason #1: I’m single and every year I don’t have a
boyfriend I become painfully aware that I’m contributing to the monotony. As
cousins and siblings get married off, I’m lumped in with the high school and
college kids. Not that I don’t LOVE the high school and college kids (a lot of
times they are more fun than the grownup married people) it’s just that
sometimes people forget that I’m a grownup, too. Since Christmas is such a
family oriented thing, it’s hard to figure out where to place that extra limb
who’s hanging solo.
Reason #2: Also since Christmas is a family holiday, if you
have drama in your family, you feel it the most around Christmas. You know who
isn’t talking to who, who’s mad a who, and so on. The last three Christmases there has been
drama in my family and I’m aware every “family” gathering that things are out
of sorts; something isn’t quite right.
Reason #3: I already mentioned that I’m single. During
Christmas most people my age are starting their new little families and
beginning to create their own traditions. I’m still doing the old traditions.
I’m still 13. I just want to freakin’ grow up, please.
Reason #4: Christmas is a sentimental person’s dreamboat.
Memorable decorations from the year baby took her first steps and Mama cookin’
the roast the same way she does every year. Gag me. There are so few things I’m sentimental about
and for the most part sentimentality makes me want to blow chunks. Seriously.
Then came this year. I moved to Mexico right before
Thanksgiving. I was delighted to not be doing the same old thing for Turkey
Day. And, for some reason, as soon as December got here, I actually wanted to
listen to Christmas music. I got excited when I saw Christmas decorations in
people’s windows and heard Christmas music in the grocery store. I’m not dry heaving at the sound of Frank Sinatra, even though I think his voice is overrated. I’m baking this year. Christmas shopping
wasn’t as stressful and I actually did Christmas cards for the first time ever.
I ordered a mini Christmas tree and it didn’t make it to
Mexico. I cried when it didn’t come. I just wanted something to remind me of
traditional Christmas. So I made Christmas cookies that’re my family’s
specialty and it genuinely made me feel better. I also was sad to miss the Christmas Eve service at my
church. It’s one tradition that I love.
But then I was happy that I was sad. It meant those little
things actually did mean something to me. It means that change happens and some
parts of that change are painful. We feel change the most around the holidays,
just like we feel singleness, family discord, and loss. We feel those things
the most because of tradition, because we look forward to the same things every
year.
I started thinking about what role tradition played in the
Christmas story. I’ll admit that even Jesus’s birth had gotten boring. There
are only so many sermons a pastor can pull out of his hat for the Christmas
story. You hear the tale so many times that you start to wonder if you actually
believe it. You think, “Oh that’s sweet” and it takes effort to realize it was
anything but sweet.
So this year, between sermons in Spanish, lack of the
Hallmark Channel and the plethora of Christmas concerts that occur in my home city, I
felt myself dried out from the Christmas story. Like maybe I’d been in
Christmas rehab. I realized not having Baby Jesus shoved in my face actually
made me miss Him.
So this morning I got simple and read the Christmas story
out of the Jesus Story Book Bible.
I cried at the words:
The
God who flung planets into space and kept them whirling around and around, the
God who made the universe with just a word, the one who could do anything at
all—was making himself small. And coming down…as a baby.
And the words:
You
see, God was a like a new daddy—he couldn’t keep the good news to himself. He’d
been waiting all these long years for this moment, and now he wanted to tell
everyone.
And suddenly Christmas was real again. That sounds cheesy
but a lot of things about Christmas are cheesy—check out Santa Clause.
It’s good to get away from tradition for a little while. It
makes you realize which traditions you really value. It makes the important
things real and puts the unimportant things in the right place. Mixing things
up helps you realize that some change is good, even necessary. Being alone
doesn’t mean you’re lonely and you can still love and enjoy your family from a
distance.
And Jesus birth is
still Jesus birth no matter what country. No matter what language. That’s one
story that will never change.
Gather
'round, ye children, come
Listen
to the old, old story
Of
the pow'r of Death undone
By
an infant born of glory
Son
of God, Son of Man
Gather
'round, remember now
How
creation held its breath
How
it let out a sigh
And
it filled up the sky with the angels
Son
of God, Son of Man
(Gather
round ye Children come, Andrew Peterson, Behold the Lamb of God)