Something More?
“She didn’t make being alone seem lonely as Evangeline had always feared. She made it seem like an adventure, as if every moment were the start of a story with endless possibilities.”
In the month of October, I went on three of the best dates of my life. When I shared this with people, most folks leaned forward eagerly, waiting for the part when I would tell them one of these dates turned into "something more."
I witnessed the short-circuiting of years of societal expectations as I informed my well-meaning friends that, no, none of these dates turned into something more. But they were still some of the best dates of my life.
I started seriously dating--and going on lots of dates--when I removed the expectation for "something more" from the equation. My first podcast recorded the beginning of that journey. That was over three years ago. I don't regret one minute of it. Even the time I got stood up makes a great story.
I wonder now why I put so much pressure on myself to find "someone." Dude, I AM SOMEONE. I am so very happy and my life is so very rich, full of adventures with endless possibilities. If I reach the end of my life without a long term partner, that will be a wonderful story.
Someone might ask, then why do you go on dates? I suppose my best response today is, "Why not?"